Always green

I think we can all relate to this situation: You’re up and about, living your life, minding your own business and all of a sudden… you meet someone else and you experience something that makes you think: the grass is always greener on the other side. In other words: I’m good, but that other person really has got it all together. That’s a normal response I guess, as we all want to feel like we’re on top of things. But the funny thing is (and this really is funny) it’s most likely that the other person feels the exact same (but opposite) way. He or she thinks you got it all mapped out, crystal clear. Yeah, people envy each other. Even about the smallest things. That’s what they do. I know I do. Until the moment I realize, that everything outside of myself (the way I experience things, the way I judge things etc.) is a reflection of myself. It’s me creating that image. It’s about me (focussing on my own imperfection) and not about that other person (being really perfect). So whenever I’m in a situation like this, I stick to myself and think: the grass is always green. There’s no need to pick sides.

September 22, 2011 by: | Category: Daily Inspiration | Tags: ,

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  • tanya says:

    Thank you! I can recall moments when I encountered someone who “appeared to have it all together” even more so than me, I never looked at it quite the way you explained it. This is definitely an ah-ha moment for me! I never realized that I was focusing on my own imperfections… but indeed I have. Your blog is refreshing. Happy New Year!

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