• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    Two ways of living

    Mr. Einstein says we can live our life in two ways: 1) as though nothing is a miracle or 2) as though everything is a miracle. What does he mean? Well for example, you can look at a cloud thinking: “That’s not a miracle, that’s a cloud”. Yes practical, but also one dimensional, superficial and boring. So instead, you can look at a cloud wondering: “Where did it come from, what is it made of, how will it transform, where will it go, am I the only one seeing this cloud?” etc.. Now, I’m not saying you should look at clouds that way all the time, and sure, science can explain clouds perfectly. So why wonder? Well, because it let’s you experience the mystery and beauty of every day life: it let’s you live in the moment, turning your whole life and everything in it into an instant miracle like nothing else!

    September 28, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    You're beautiful

    You are a lot more attractive than you think. In fact, many people think you are good looking. Hell, quite a lot of people think you’re beautiful! The only thing is: they don’t tell you that. That’s because you walk by too fast or it would make them feel uncomfortable if they did or it would be inappropriate. Still – that’s what they think. How I know? Well, how many times do you see an attractive or even beautiful person walking by and not telling him or her how you feel? Well, that’s how I know.

    September 27, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    How much ego do you need?

    There’s a lot of talk about ‘Ego’, and often in a not so positive way. To give you an understanding of what I mean, I selected some quotes. Wayne Dyer: “Ego is simply an idea of who you are that you carry around with you.” Anonymous: “Ego: The fallacy whereby a goose thinks he’s a swan”. Friedrich Nietzsche: “Whenever I climb, I am followed by a dog called Ego.” Deepak Chopra: “If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego (…). Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. (…).” So, is the ego all bad then? Well, no. We need our ego as we need our name: for handy reference and general convenience. But then how much ego do we need precisely? Zen Buddhist Shunryu Suzuki answers: “Just enough so we don’t step in front of a bus”.

    September 21, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    From an abstract point of view there’s no difference between one car or another. Despite their unique characteristics, in the end they’re both just a car. The same can be said about cities, cultures and countries. Take for instance life in Paris and life in New York City: it’s the same, but different.

    September 20, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Video
    To become superior, make mistakes

    Do you ever dream of being really, really, reeeeally good at what you do? Then by all means: make mistakes! And if you already make mistakes, make more! Do as golf legend Tom Watson said: “If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate”. Read more about that in this post.

    September 14, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    You can't have everything, where would you put it

    Although I like to have things, I’m not really somebody who strives for having everything. Still, this quote from actor/comedian Steven Wright helped me. Because it made me realize that I can’t have everything in first place. Not because it’s too much to ask for, not because it’s impossible, but simply because I wouldn’t know where to put it all! Sometimes profound insights are also funny.

    September 5, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer

    Nobody likes having a problem. Nobody likes spending time on a problem. So we prefer a quick fix and cover it with a plaster. But sooner or later that plaster goes off and we’re back where we started. In order to really solve a problem, we need to understand the problem. And to know the entire solution, we need to know the entire problem. And so we need stay with it longer then we might like.

    August 30, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
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