• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    If you have a dream, if you want change, if you strive for progress but no one seems to care for your ideas, let me give you a nice Gandhi quote. He said: “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win”. Indeed: and then you win. So ssht. Don’t worry. Work. And keep working. And meanwhile, meditate on ssht, to keep your thoughts from playing games with you.

    January 16, 2013 door:
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    I discovered this video thanks to a friend who posted it on facebook (thanks Annemarie!). You will see Dean Potter walking a highline at Cathedral Peak in Yosemite National Park, USA. As the sun sets and the moon rises, shot from over 1 mile away, it’s what the filmmakers call: “The ultimate full moon shot”. It is part of a bigger project for National Geographic called The Man Who Can Fly.

    January 10, 2013 door:
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    Some people live by strong political, scientific, cultural, religious or spiritual beliefs. Their beliefs form the one truth by which they live their life. But the truth is, there’s always more than one truth. Or as Stephen Hawking said: “I’ve noticed that even those who assert that everything is predestined, and that we can do nothing about it, still look both ways before they cross the street”. Always be open.

    January 10, 2013 door:
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    This video shows footage from ‘Landfill Harmonic’, an upcoming feature-length documentary about a remarkable musical orchestra in Paraguay. Remarkable because the musicians play instruments made from trash! Cateura, Paraguay is a town essentially built on top of a landfill. Garbage collectors browse the trash for sellable goods, and children are often at risk of getting involved with drugs and gangs. When orchestra director Szaran and music teacher Fabio set up a music program for the kids of Cateura, they soon have more students than they have instruments. That changed when Szaran and Fabio were brought something they had never seen before: a violin made out of garbage. Today, there’s an entire orchestra of assembled instruments, now called The Recycled Orchestra.

    January 9, 2013 door:
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    If today was a movie, what would be it's title?

    Sometimes when I want to put things into perspective, I ask myself: If today (this week, month, year, my life) was a movie, what would be the title? What would be the title of your day? Try it, it’s fun.

    January 8, 2013 door:
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    I’ve posted many road trips on my blog simply because I love them! Watching people travel, being on the road to a destination unknown, really takes me away from my daily (city) routines and on the road with them. The same happened when I was watching this video. Sponsored by a jeans brand, ‘Long Live The Kings’ is a very well crafted short film. It’s about four guys on motorcycles, wanting to cross the Canadian Mountains. What they discover is that you can’t cross the mountains, but (with luck) the mountains will let you pass… More road trips? See the tag cloud at the right and click road trip.

    January 8, 2013 door:
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    Wonder without getting hit

    ‘Wondering’ is defined as: feeling or expressing awe, admiration, amazement, or surprise. You ‘wonder’ when you’re being curious and eagerly set out to investigate something. Personally, I love to wonder, because only then I can discover new things. Just one tip: wonder without getting hit.

    January 4, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
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