• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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  • What can do for you?
    Hello, my name is Stijn Ouwehand (40) and I’m a Certified Life Coach and Creative Consultant, founder of focusNjoy. I offer my clients inspired living and inspired ideas. They usually come for one of the two, but end up getting both. It’s my pleasure to help you find focus and joy in your personal life, career, business or project. Whether you’re a CEO at the top of your game or a mom trying to balance work and home life, in the end we’re all searching for purpose and happiness, in every step of our journey and I’d love to be your guide. I’m based in Amsterdam, The Netherlands but open to serve the world (yay Skype!) and ready to travel to wherever you are (get me a ticket haha).


    Life Coaching

    My life coaching expands your options, instantly. I offer accessible, light hearted sessions to raise your energy and boost your inspiration for whatever it is you want to change. What seems a dead end now, becomes a door. I’m a certified life coach, but I mostly improvise. My sessions are custom made, always in the moment, created on the spot, never planned. I use psychology, philosophy, spirituality, common sense, humor and a little magic. And miracles happen. Fun is vital, getting you inspired is my goal. Keywords: Unconditionally open minded: I’ll never judge you. Equality: I’m just like you. Integrity: You’re safe with me. I offer private sessions & workshops and you can hire me as a public speaker.

    Creative Consultancy
    As a Senior Creative I’ve got a 20 year track record, working for some of the world’s leading TV production companies, broadcasters and advertisers (LinkedIn). Hire me and you get an all round creative overseeing the big picture as well as the tiniest details. I add creativity to strategy and strategy to ideas. I’m a pragmatic artist: originality is non-existent, but authenticity is invaluable. What? Yes. Read this post I wrote about it. Anyway, are you in need of some creative horse power? I offer Creative Consultancy for generating new business ideas, marketing strategies, ad campaigns and content creation. You can hire me for a single brainstorm and for concept development.

    Blogging and more…
    focusNjoy is also a blog with visitors from over 145 countries worldwide and a Facebook page with over 2,400 ‘fans’. And I’m currently writing a book called: ‘focusNjoy: ways to reach Next Level Freedom’. And finally, focusNjoy is my playfully profound way of life.

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