The make everything ok button!

Did you ever have one of those moments you wished you could just press a button and everything would be ok? Yes? Well, then I’ve got some good news because it’s finally here: the make everything ok button! Simply press the button and voila: everything is ok! If for some reason everything still isn’t ok, just follow the simple instructions. And if that doesn’t help: just let me know. Send me an email or give me a call: I’m more than happy to help. But start by pressing that amazingly awesome button! 

October 1, 2012 by: | Category: Link |
The Big View

“If life is a journey, then philosophy is like a compass. It helps us to find our way through the jungle of possibilities that life presents”. This is the first sentence you’ll read in the ‘about’ section of a website I found, called: The Big View. Editor/webmaster Thomas Knierim writes: “This website is about philosophy in the widest sense. It includes science, religion, mythology and other fields of thought that are not within the traditional scope of philosophy. However, it makes not much sense to treat these fields separately. Everything is connected. If one views anything from any possible angle, it can only increase understanding. (…) Most people are familiar with the problem of information overload. (…) is intended for the reader who wants to get an overview of a philosophical topic in a minimum amount of time”. Well, I’m not saying you should spend your entire weekend reading all the content, but it sure is interesting. And if we want to broaden our horizon and increase our (self)knowledge, then obviously a little time investment must be made. So take a look, pick a topic that speaks to you and see what it brings you. I’m sure that, like me, you will gain some new insights.

April 7, 2012 by: | Category: Link |
The love of wisdom

What is philosophy? Wikipedia says: Philosophy is the study of general and fundamental problems, such as those connected with existence, knowledge, values, reason, mind, and language. Philosophy is distinguished from other ways of addressing such problems by its critical, generally systematic approach and its reliance on rational arguments. The word “philosophy” comes from the Greek φιλοσοφία (philosophia), which literally means “love of wisdom”. Especially when emotions and feelings leave you numb, it’s reason that provides a highly effective framework to regain control. If you like to get a general view on philosophy and it’s history press here. And if you’re up for something stronger, I also found a website called the Internet Encyclopedia of Philosophy. You can browse by topic (e.g. the ‘Philosophy of Sexuality’ or ‘God and Time’) or by philosopher (e.g. Socrates, Descartes, Goethe, Plato etc.). When you ‘love wisdom’, I’m sure this is interesting for you.

September 24, 2011 by: | Category: Link | Tags:
Relaxation Mixer

I just came across a website called There I found a relaxation tool that’s fun and easy to use. First you choose some music – e.g. a subtle drumbeat – then you can add 4 different natural sounds, varying from crushing ocean waves to a bird whistle, a campfire or thunder. You then have the option to mix it all together into a blissful blend of sounds. Wanna try? Press here.

September 15, 2011 by: | Category: Link | Tags: ,
Do nothing

Mindfulness is hot and happening. It’s a way to calm the mind, in stressful times. But to actually be ‘mindful’ is not always easy. It takes time to practice. So here’s a little exercise you can do any time of the day. Even at the office. The challenge is to do nothing for 2 minutes and to just listen to the waves. To proof you’re doing well, don’t touch your mouse or keyboard. Sounds easy? Do the test.

August 11, 2011 by: | Category: Link | Tags:
Dalai Lama Photo © Jamie Williams

In our attempt to manage daily life, we sometimes get overwhelmed by our own thinking. Although good at first (to fill in our tax forms and get a wide range of other practical things done) it’s sometimes hard to stop thinking. Like we’re in a roller coaster that we can’t get out of. And this makes us feel restless. Like we’re out of control. So here you’ll find 10 sayings that remind you of the Wisdom of the Heart. I didn’t make that up. The Dalai Lama did. And reading them slowly, made me feel really peaceful. At least for a moment. I hope it has the same effect on you too.

August 7, 2011 by: | Category: Link |

We all make mistakes. Blunders even. We screw things up, we fail and flounder. And because we all do, the world as a whole does too. Here are the Seven Blunders of the World. I didn’t make them up. Mahatma Gandhi did. And reading them attentively, makes me wonder about my own ‘blunders’. Of course being aware of a blunder, is half – if not more – of the solution for setting it straight again.

August 5, 2011 by: | Category: Link |
    • Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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