Loser vs God Almighty

I think we can all relate to the John Lennon quote. We all get caught up in mixed emotions, thoughts or feelings every now and then and it’s perfectly understandable. Because it’s a fine line between winning and losing. Between genius and insanity. Between love and hate. Between success and failure. Even between living and dying. One moment you’re up, the next you’re down and vice versa. And so it’s actually quite normal when part of you is full of doubt, while the other part is absolutely certain. When part of you wants to run away, while the other part is ready to fight. When part of you suspects you’re completely lost, while the other part thinks you’ve got it all under control. Don’t get confused when you have mixed emotions, thoughts or feelings. Having them is confusing enough! Instead, just smile at them. Study them, learn from them. Having them is normal and they all pass.

November 1, 2012 by: | Category: Uncategorized |
It usually is, what you think it is...

I’ve used this Shakespeare quote in one of my earlier posts on the subject ‘Thinking’. I love it so much because it reminds of reality being completely neutral, neither good or bad. And that it is our own thinking that makes it good or bad, beautiful or ugly, full of potential or hopeless etc..

October 11, 2012 by: | Category: Uncategorized |
Be(you)tiful!

NEWS! For those living in The Netherlands, I’m happy and proud to announce that as of now focusNjoy will provide personal coaching for the clients of Doctors Inc. Cosmetic Clinic. The reason for our collaboration is simple: apart from the best possible care for their appearance, we want to offer clients quality attention for their inner wellbeing. It is this combination, an outer and inner approach of beauty, that will give the positive result of a treatment an extra boost: clients will not only look good, they will feel good too! For my Dutch readers, you can find more information here. For more information about Doctors Inc. click here to visit the website (currently only available in Dutch).

April 6, 2012 by: | Category: Uncategorized |
Poll what really really is important

This is the first of a weekly poll in which I will ask a question that will make you reflect on life as you know it and focus on life how you wish it to be. This week, the question is about what you find really important in life and if you succeed in giving that enough attention. Because often we get caught up in things that in fact are not all that important. So, knowing what is important and prioritizing, form a crucial element in creating a fulfilling life. Thank you for participating! [polldaddy poll=6105744]

April 3, 2012 by: | Category: Uncategorized |
Open the door and be yourself

To show who we are and to say what we feel isn’t always easy, because we often fear the consequences. For example, we think that other people might think less of us when we show our true self. So instead, we often prefer to remain in the dark, hiding ourselves from the confrontation we think awaits us. So there we are, locked up in our self created room. Safe for the moment, but stuck in the end. What can we do? Well, the first question we need to ask is: what do I want? Do I want get out of this room, feel free and show myself? Or do I want to remain invisible? Everyone ultimately comes to a point where he or she wants to open that door and step out. And of course sometimes, this takes a great deal of courage. A beautiful insight that might fuel that courage comes from American writer, poet en cartoonist Dr. Seuss. He said: “Be who you are and say what you feel. Because those who mind, don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”. As this helps me, I hope this helps you too, to dare open the door and free yourself by being yourself.

March 19, 2012 by: | Category: Uncategorized |
    • Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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