Finger pointing, is… pointless. Blaming something or someone else for your situation may feel good at first, but really, it doesn’t get you anywhere. Even when you’re right, it doesn’t change anything and worse, it makes you powerless: you give all your energy away. Saying something or someone else is responsible, makes you dependent. Like you have no say in what happens to you. Taking responsibility for yourself however, gives you options. You can make choices, change things, take action, in other words: you’re calling the shots. Taking responsibility can feel as a burden, but it sets you free in how to deal with life. I read a nice quote the other day about finger pointing: “When you point your finger at someone else, remember that four of your fingers are pointing at yourself”.