• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    Dreams come to life like a magnificent shower

    You ponder, you wonder, where to begin? You may start with reason, and force your way in. You might choose for logic or focus on math. But will calculations, predict your path? If you have a dream, it’s nice to be smart. But never forget to follow your heart. ‘Cause nothing is certain, nothing will stay. So try to let loose, and take time to play. Simply feel free, for what you will see, is sometimes you’re right and sometimes you’re wrong. But all ups and downs, will make you strong. So first to yourself, simply be kind. And step by step, you surely will find. It’s not about when, or if you can. It’s not about how, be with the Tao. No need to run, no need to hide. No need for struggle, no need to fight. And then there it is, in the ultimate hour. Your dreams come to life, like a magnificent shower.

    July 17, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    The evening news might make you believe differently, but this film shows that planet Earth could very well be heaven itself. Where ever you are in life, never forget just how beautiful the world really is.

    July 17, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Video
    Every end is a new beginning

    The sun goes down, so the moon can rise. If water freezes, it will become ice. One door is closed, to open another. When your dad said no, you went to your mother. If you’re tired of listening, it’s time to start talking. When you’re tired of running, simply start walking. Old becomes new, as new becomes old. You may be shy, but suddenly bold. When a meal is finished, digestion begins. Your wish for a baby, might be granted with twins. When a project is done, you start with the next. First you feel stressed, then you’re relaxed. If you’re done breathing in, you start breathing out. First you where sure, now full of doubt. Fall ends, winter begins. Endings, beginnings, both just a name, do take it easy: they are the same! Look beyond their appearance, and see what that’s giving. Unbound by limits, you will be living. Endings, beginnings, they truly are one. No more duality, no need to run.

    July 12, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    Life isnt about finding yourself

    Some people spend their entire life searching to ‘find themselves’. Some succeed, some don’t, so here’s an easy and guaranteed successful way to find yourself. Look in a mirror and voila: there you are! If you still don’t think it’s really you, pinch yourself in the arm. Ah, very funny, but what if you want to find your inner self? Well, as I wrote in this post: ‘Getting lost is a great way to find your (inner) self’, because when everything around you no longer serves as a compass to live by, you become your own compass. But getting lost is a little devious maybe, so what else can you do? Well, Irish playwright George Bernard Shaw (1865-1950) had a refreshing point of view. He said: “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself”. Whereas finding yourself implies that you seek outside of yourself, creating yourself means you start from within yourself and then work to manifest that in the outside world. Once you succeed in doing so, there will be no need to find yourself – you already did. In other words, it’s not so much who you are, it’s who you want to be.

    July 2, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    Every little thing is magic

    Every little thing is magic, life is amazing. A child knows this, and shows this without any restraint. As adults however, we try to play it cool, not acting surprised anymore, not being curious, believing we’ve seen it all before, having an explanation for everything: gone is the magic. To bring back the magic, let us be open. Even to the tiniest details, so once again great discoveries can be made.

    June 29, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    The things you see aren’t always what you think they are. You may not understand them, you may think it’s weird and incoherent; it may leave you puzzled. But then afterwards, when you’re able to put things in perspective, everything falls in place. Watch this film and watch it until the end to find out why a step backwards can in fact prove to be a step forward. And why it will put a smile on your face.

    June 27, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Video
    Who says you can't?

    This image is not mine, I don’t own the rights and don’t know who made it. But I’d like to thank the person who did because I love it! Such an amazing visualization of ‘the impossible made possible’. Ok sure, taking a plunge in the asphalt may be a long shot, but in general: no matter how tough the situation, no matter how big the challenge: you can find the recourses to deal with it. If not now, then later. Who says you can’t? Who are they? Do they control your life? Do they possess the wisdom to know exactly what you’re capable of? True, they may have the authority, the power or the experience, but in the end: they are not you. So unless you tell yourself you can’t, you can.

    June 27, 2012 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
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