• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    So simple, yet so true. Well, I don’t know if it’s exactly 80%, but the point is: showing up is an essential, unmissable part of the road to success. I mean, no matter how talented you are, how well prepared you come, even when you’re like no one else made for the job… if you choose to stay in bed, if you choose to not show up, you will certainly fail. So yes, let’s say 80% of success is showing up. Now, keep this in mind the next time you are about to embark on some mission, not quite sure of how to get the job done – just by showing up, you’re already at 80% of the success you’re after! So, hello, good morning and go out there!

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    You’ll enjoy this video, especially when you are familiar with Eckhart Tolle’s book The Power of Now and like Jim Carrey. As it turns out, the famous Hollywood movie star is a friend of Tolle. In this video we see Carrey at the opening of the 2009 GATE Event, introducing his friend to the audience. But before doing so, he shares his own experience with what’s called ‘Awakening’ (in The Power of Now) and also he’s openly discussing his pursuit for meaning and purpose. Oh, and he’s funny too.

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    Categorie: Video
    Einstein knows

    “If you do what you always do, you get what you always get”. I love this Einstein quote. He challenges us to try new things, to be curious and stay flexible. Imagine someone playing chess, with the exact same strategy every game, making the exact same moves. What do you think would happen? He will be beaten the exact same way every time. So – especially when you’re not succeeding in what you want to achieve – changing your approach is the key. Because if you change, everything changes.

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    Bring peace yourself

    Falling in love is great. Just like getting the new iPhone 5. Winning the lottery is grant. Just like a bright sunny day. Coming home to your children after a long day at work is magic. Just like your favorite sports team winning the national title. But only you can bring peace to yourself.

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    Solutions will be found

    When you are in the dark, it seems impossible to get into the light. When you’re down and out, it seems impossible to be up and about. But impossible only means that you haven’t found the solution yet. There’s a solution for everything. Impossible? Boxing legend Muhammad Ali once spoke some amazing words about what impossible is. He said: “Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live the world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It’s a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing.”

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    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    You can start a brand new day2

    In most cultures you need a brand new day in order to start over with a clean sheet. That’s understandable I guess. But it’s actually not very handy. I mean at one point in human history, it was decided that a brand new day only begins when the sun comes up. Later it was decided that ‘technically’ a brand new day begins 0.00 AM. That means, in order to start over, we’ll have to wait A) for the sun to come up or B) stay awake until it’s 0.00 AM. We lose a great deal of time here! So I decided to make my own rule. Instead of being dependent on nature or the clock, I’d like to think a brand new day begins every second of the day. I mean every second a new 24hr cycle, a brand new day, begins. So now I can start a brand new day any time of the day. And so can you.

    September 8, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    When the stakes are high, you sometimes go low. This scene from the movie Jerry Maguire, proves exactly that. Tom Cruise’s character Jerry Maguire is at the verge of a nervous breakdown. He just got fired and tries desperately to keep as many of his clients on board, for his yet to start company. Too bad, everybody let’s him down. He’s in a free fall and with his least valuable client on the phone, wasting his time, he’s about to hit rock bottom. But the great advantage of hitting rock bottom is that you can’t fall any deeper. And so, as the story unfolds, this ‘least valuable client’ turns out to be his most valuable client in many ways. But as you’ll see in this scene: Jerry isn’t aware of that yet.

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    Categorie: Video
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