• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    Be flexible, in mind and body
    Flexible: a simple, yet profound word, characterized by a ready capability to adapt to new, different or changing requirements. And since daily life presents us with changing requirements all the time, being capable of adapting to new and different things is a rather handy skill. In fact, creating and maintaining a flexible mind and body is an art, for it lets you tune in to change. Instead of fighting change, you become change so you can let it work for you, both on a practical and spiritual level.
    December 2, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    Ride waves of love

    This is my 100th post! To celebrate, here’s a colorful picture, reflecting waves of love. An energy, so subtle and clear. And if you can tap in on it, it will prove to be an unbreakable and everlasting force, always there to carry you. So here’s to the waves of love, may you find them in your life, so you can ride them, smiling.

    November 30, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    “The funny thing about fairy tales, is that we forget about them so fast. And we grow up, we buy things, we build up fences. We sell our innocence and forget our dreams. We forget who we are in order to be something we’re not. And we’ll keep believing in this so called truths, until we forget how to live. Or until we open our eyes, and wake up.” This text comes from the trailer of the film ‘Intentio’ by Loïc Wirth. I wondered: are my eyes open? Am I awake? I mean, really? And – how about you?

    November 28, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Video
    More or less, your choice

    Fear less, hope more: look at the bright side. Eat less, chew more: take your time to really enjoy what you eat. Whine less, breathe more: live in the moment. Talk less, say more: express yourself wisely. Love more, and all good things will be yours: love can transform anything into something good.

    November 27, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    Welcome to Paris on a warm afternoon somewhere in September. You’ll be accompanied by singer/songwriter Lianne La Havas. As she takes you through the crowded streets, her soulful soothing voice and gentle guitar play, really are an oasis of peace. Watching this video will make you feel as if you’re actually there. It’s a blissful afternoon tune, perfect for a sunday. The song she’s playing is called ‘No Room for Doubt’ and the video is shot as a part of the great Take Away Shows by La Blogothèque. More Take Away Shows that featured on focusNjoy.com, click here and here.

    November 27, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Video
    What's normal?

    What is normal anyway? When we behave like the majority of people? Is that normal? That’s actually quite strange, millions of people behaving in the same way. I think it’s quite normal to be strange. As it is quite strange to be normal. American politician Adlai E. Stevenson (1835-1914) said: “When you look closely, people are so strange and so complicated that they’re actually beautiful”. I fully agree.

    November 26, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
    Cycle of Life

    A little poetic thought I had: You can see a dessert in a grain of sand. An ocean in a drop of water.     A flower is like a star, the blossom, the universe. Everything, connected. An infinite cycle of creation.

    November 26, 2011 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
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