• Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be

      People are vulnerable as individuals and as a species. And fighting vulnerability is useless. No matter how hard you try. Simply because you can’t control everything and so your life can turn upside down at any moment of any day. You may be the King of the World, the Smartest Woman in the Universe or the Sexiest Man Alive; it won’t help. You can however hide from it. And most of us do. Behind a fancy job title, nice car or house. Interesting friends, a busy agenda, designer clothes or healthy hipster life style, but sooner or later vulnerability will find you. So what can you do? Well, it’s simple.

      Simply face it and embrace it. Because when you embrace it, you no longer need to fight it. You no longer need to run or hide from it, by keeping up appearances and putting energy in this hopeless attempt to avoid the discomfort of feeling it. You can now be as you are, vulnerable, instead of pretending not to be. The way I see it: vulnerability is indestructible. So by letting it in and become a part of you, in a way that makes you indestructible. Daring to be vulnerable gives you power to be.

      Vulnerability becomes a Strength

      Are you alive?

      From time to time it’s good to ask yourself: “Am I alive?” Because it’s not uncommon to just be busy doing what you’re always doing. To be caught up in a routine. And that routine may very well result in hours, days, weeks, months or even years of living, without actually being alive. Because there’s more to living, than just breathing. Imagine someone in a coma and it becomes clear… I recently attended a re-birthing workshop and I experienced the difference between A) normal breathing: a mostly shallow, kind of mechanic and unconscious way of getting the bare minimum of oxygen ‘shots’ and B) breathing with full awareness, in a rich flow, organic and fully open to receive life’s energy in all it’s splendor. It let me experience the meaning of the phrase: “Just because you breathe, doesn’t mean you’re alive”. And so I challenge you, as I challenge myself, to wonder: am I  really alive or mostly just busy breathing?

      Just because you breathe

      Who am I… or rather, what am I?

      I guess you’re familiar with this sensation: one moment you feel great, and the next… well not so great. I sometimes feel like I’m nothing and sometimes I feel as though I’m everything. It’s a really fine line, much like it is with being crazy or brilliant. John Lennon had a nice way of putting it. He said: “Part of me suspects I’m a loser. The other part of me thinks I’m God Almighty”. I wrote a post about that one too. Anyway. A couple of days ago, I stumbled upon the “I, a universe of atoms…” quote by the American physicist Richard P. Feynman (1918 – 1988). And it’s stuck in my head ever since. Because to me his words are both mind blowing and heart warming. The thought of “I” being a tiny, stand alone atom – and an infinite, whole universe at the same time, blows my ego off it’s socks. Because “I” isn’t (only) the ‘earthly me’. “I” is a single atom and an entire universe, completing one another. Think about that when you’re looking at yourself in the mirror. So yes, it’s a quote I gratefully meditate on. It’s so simple and yet so deeply profound. It makes me feel humble and larger than life at the same time – it’s liberating. Look at us humans. Look at you, look at me. We are both nothing and everything. Again. That’s just… wow.

      I, a universe of atoms

      focusNjoy #122: Stop searching, start finding

      Imagine you’re looking for something, but you can’t find it. Annoying. Yes. Very. But then, maybe you’re not supposed to find it. Or maybe you’re just looking in the wrong place. Or maybe… you already found it, but you don’t realize it yet. Whatever the reason is, you might want to stop searching. Why? Well think about it: as long as you’re busy searching – you’re not… finding!

      Stop searching, Start finding

      A fresh start for focusNjoy

      Dear friends, it’s been more than a year since my last post! Honestly, I needed the break but a lot of good things have happened to me in the meantime. Apart from a great time at Eyeworks Netherlands, where I worked as a Senior Creative with some great people at the Program Development Team, it were exciting times for me personally as well. Too much to tell you in one post. But I will share more in the coming months, because it’s been truly transformational.

      I’m planning on a brand new start of focusNjoy at the end of April. And this time, I intend to actually make some money haha – because running an ad-free blog is great, but from a financial point of view it wasn’t a success and one of the reasons for me to get back to television. Later in 2014 I intend to finally start with my workshops in Amsterdam. I’m super excited about that but let’s see how things develop. Anway – I’m back and I’m feeling fresh. Hoping to hear from you – always feel free to send me an email and say hi!

      Love, Stijn.

      focusNjoy back 2014
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    I don’t have recurring dreams – but I do see history repeating. Take global politics for instance, or trends in fashion or the entertainment industry. And often also in my personal life. Certain lessons need to be learned in more than one lesson, in various situations. That’s what this splendid music video made me think about. Splendid because it’s pure eye-candy and also a nice song. Enjoy!

    February 6, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Video
    So, do a little dance :-)

    Because life is serious enough, I try to do a little dance everyday. I make a quick, preferably silly move to lighten up, to brighten up, to feel carefree. Silly? Yes, so it puts a smile on my face for sure!

    February 5, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    Wow, take a look at this! It’s a real time, non-manipulated video of the moon rising over the Mount Victoria Lookout in Wellington, New Zealand. The filmmaker says: “People had gathered up there this night to get the best view possible of the moon rising. I captured the video from 2.1 km away on the other side of the city. It’s something that I’ve been wanting to photograph for a long time now, and a lot of planning and failed attempts had taken place. Finally, during moon rise on the 28th January 2013, everything fell into place and I got my footage”. It’s nature at it’s finest. Enjoy!

    February 5, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Video

    Let’s look at the future and in particular on how technology plays an increasing part in changing our lives. Some may argue it all goes too fast, yet Peter Diamandis makes a case for optimism – that we’ll invent, innovate and create ways to solve the global challenges that loom over us. He says: “I’m not saying we don’t have our set of problems; we surely do. But ultimately, we knock them down.” You will surely get some inspiration from this TED talk Diamandis gave in early 2012. His meta vision on the future of the world and mankind is based on his conviction that: “Abundance is our future.”

    January 29, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Video
    Life is a stage

    Every day you open your eyes like you open the curtain. You enter the world like you enter the stage. Enjoy whatever it is you’re doing. Never mind how many people are watching, if they are applauding or booing you. Life is a stage and the stage is yours.

    January 29, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration

    I recently wrote: “When you start looking for the extraordinary in the ordinary, you’ll begin to see miracles everywhere”. And then I stumbled upon this film, which the filmmakers describe as: “Images which become memories which become LIFE, every second counts to feel alive. (…)”. Watch this film and experience how ‘looking for the extraordinary in the ordinary results in seeing miracles’.

    January 26, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Video

    So when a German farmer didn’t get a permit to build a stable to create shadow for his horses, he went out of the box. He cut off the s of stable and built a table (and two chairs to complete it). After all, he didn’t need a permit for that. Don’t you just love it? (Photo: AP Photo/Jens Meyer)

    January 26, 2013 door:
    Categorie: Daily Inspiration
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